I’ve been checking this site out for a while and decided to share my own story to help out those women and men who are thinking about having an affair. Before going into my own situation, I’d like to go into a few things you may want to consider before deciding on cheating on your spouse.
When determining how to have an affair, it’s important to choose between either a short term affair versus a long term affair. Generally, a short term affair works better in your favor as it’s easier to get away with and you don’t have to worry about emotional attachments.
A long term affair on the other hand happens when you begin to know the other person. This is where what may have initially started with lust becomes emotional. As emotions get involved, it gets harder for either party to separate from the other, thereby increasing your chances of getting caught by your significant other.
As you think about how to have an affair, it’s important to decide whether you want to have a short term or a long term affair. The choice is ultimately yours, however it should be clear that in most cases a short term affair is more advantageous. When looking to keep your affair a secret, there’s a very small chance you’ll get caught if you have a one time escapade. There’s very little emotional investment. You typically don’t need to spend much money. No need to worry about the persons problems and you get a rotation of new people to continue your affair with whenever you want.
Of course, this is easier said than done. In my own case, I wasn’t even looking for an affair at first, but only some attention. As time went on, it turned into a fling that then turned into something much bigger than either of us expected. You need to realize that a long term affair might be unavoidable no matter how hard you try which can make things quite complicated. The person you are having an affair with might want more of your time and energy. You essentially end up in a second relationship and this ultimately is what leads to the downfall of most people having an affair as this is how they get caught.
As to my circumstances… I was in a marriage of only a couple of years. At first things were incredible, but as time passed, the relationship between my spouse and I started to resemble more and more as if were two friends sharing a house together as opposed to people being in love with each other.
As we had no children, at first I decided that a divorce might be the option for me. However, and this may come off as selfish, I was unsure whether this was definitely the right choice for me which is how I decided upon an affair. I ended up signing up with Ashley Madison and Adultfrienedfinder. The reason for this was that I want anonymity not to mention I was really only looking mostly for attention more than anything else.
I decided to sign up for Ashley Madison as opposed to other sites as it seemed to be the most popular in the niche of dating and those that want to have an affair.
Let me say this for my Ashley Madison review, at first no one really stood out for me out of all the countless e-mails that I received, until one day I got a Ashley Madison gift from a particular gentleman who lived only 1 town over.
We exchanged several e-mails before decided to swap phone numbers. We would at first talk on the phone on occasion but soon it became a daily thing. It was at this point that we decided it would be a good idea to meet.
When we met, there was an instant connection as if we were destined for each other. What was meant to be a brief fling developed into a full fledged affair. Our relationship has grown tremendously and we are still friends today. The affair wasn’t all about sex, though of course there was plenty of it. Really the affair allowed us to escape from our worlds. Sometimes we meet just to talk. We both know that we won’t leave our spouses which is why this has been able to work.